Then cometh he to Simon Peter: and Peter saith unto him, Lord, dost thou wash my feet? Jesus answered and said unto him, What I do thou knowest not now; but thou shalt know hereafter. Peter saith unto him, Thou shalt never wash my feet. Jesus answered him, If I wash thee not, thou hast no part with me.John 13:6-8
In the process of giving or wanting to give, it takes two sides or parties in order for the gift to be realized. There has to be the giver and there has a be a receiver. Both sides have to be willing participants in the process. If one refuses to give or if one refuses to receive the gift, then they are hindering the beautiful process of giving and receiving.
Peter thought he was doing something noble by refusing to let the Lord wash his feet. Yet, he was in gross darkness and error. By refusing to receive the humble blessing from the Lord, Peter was missing out on a deeper relationship with Christ. When one gives and one receives it accomplishes the fellowship of the ministry to the saints. If we refuse to let our Lord or brothers and sisters give to us, it prevents the blessing. For it is more blessed to give than to receive. If we want to truly bless others, then allowing them to give to us is absolutely essential to both parties spiritual health.
Not because I desire a gift: but I desire fruit that may abound to your account.Philippians 4:17
This statement from Paul is very striking. He said that he was content in whatever state he found himself. That
includes the fact that he was content in receiving a gift. Not for the sake of being blessed, but that the giver
would know the blessing of giving and that they would have a heavenly reward for their giving. In the name of Christ, Paul is receiving the gift for the good of the body of Christ and the good of the individual giver. It is in the
best interest of everyone if everyone becomes a cheerful giver! When I give to you and you give to me, what a blessed fellowship it brings! The fellowship of the ministering to the saints.
When someone is willing and wanting to give a gift and the would be recipient refuses the gift, what damage it does to the heart of the would be giver! It brings discouragement instead of encouragement. If their giving is refused long enough, then they may be tempted to give up and stop giving altogether. God created us a people who are to be zealous of good works. Zealous of giving ourselves away in many different ways. We are to be continually giving as the Lord enables us. Every good gift and act of giving is from the Father of lights. If we refuse a good gift from a person, it is not only injuring them but it is injuring the heart of the Father. He wanted to give us something good and we were too prideful to allow someone to give to us in the name of Christ.
The Bible teaches us to receive gifts from our brothers and sisters in Christ because of the deepening fellowship it brings. The Bible teaches us to receive gifts from our brothers and sisters in Christ because we want them to have
heavenly treasure! For the sake of their heart and God’s heart, we need to graciously accept the gift, even if we
may not think we need or want it. Let people give from the heart. That’s what’s best for them!
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;Ephesians 5:25
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.Ephesians 5:22
Husbands are commanded to love their wives and wives are commanded to receive that love from their husbands and submit to it. Giving and receiving, giving and receiving. Husbands are to be the primary givers and wives are to be the primary receivers. This is God’s design for marriage. Wives are then able to give back to their husbands by following the example and pattern that is laid down by the husband. It is the same way as the body of Christ. When we are sinners, we can do nothing for God except receive His love and repent of our sins. Once we are Born Again and Spirit filled then we are able to learn how to minister back to the Lord. Thank God that He receives our gifts when offered with a perfect heart of love. He wants us to know the joy of giving, so God joyfully receives back from His own creation. Brothers and sisters, if God can receive from us, then how shall we not receive from our brothers and sisters in Christ?
To refuse a loving gift is to injure the heart of the one who wanted to give. Let the blessings flow to you in the name of Jesus Christ!